Real Estate Negotiation

Negotiating Real Estate Development Projects


Negotiating is a bit of an art. Successful negotiations require finesse, knowledge, and understanding from both parties involved.

It’s a very uncertain process that can lead to an array of outcomes. Never has this been more true than in real estate contract negotiations.

Below are professional suggestions and tips on how to successfully negotiate your way to a signed purchase agreement

A. Introduction to Negotiation
The Parties in a Negotiation
In every Real Estate Negotiation, a “Negotiator” needs to figure out how to sell, persuade, neutralize, or in some other way satisfy someone else—“The Other Side.”

Often the Negotiator must satisfy a whole roomful of Other Sides, each with its own agenda: a lender, a tenant, an equity investor, another equity investor, and other participants.

Sometimes one party needs the deal as much as the other. Other times one party holds all the cards or thinks it does. (For ease of exposition, this publication assumes a negotiation between two parties: Our Side,” represented by the “Negotiator”; and “The Other Side,” represented by its “Representative.”).

Whether the real estate negotiation involves a lease, a workout, a purchase, or financing of a multi-state portfolio, or even a contract for the sale of a house, the Negotiator’s goal is always the same: to convince The Other Side to go along with Our Side, on terms that work for Our Side.

Negotiators have many names for that process, including “making a deal,” “selling,” “horse-trading,” “getting to yes,” and “manipulating. But negotiating in real estate always boils down to understanding The Other Side’s psychology and agenda, and persuading The Other Side to accept the Negotiator’s view of the solution

Who represents the other side?

The experienced Negotiator begins by asking exactly who represents The Other Side.

Does the representative have the authority to make a deal in a real estate negotiation? Or have the real decision-makers merely sent someone whose job is to extract the first round of concessions, but who has authority, in turn, to make only negligible concessions?

In real estate contract negotiations, this ploy allows someone higher up to step in to finish the job and, possibly, to take back some of the first representative’s concessions.

If The Other Side’s Representative’s hands are tied, Our Side would be foolish to send someone with the authority to trade away points, make concessions, and get the deal done.

Our Side’s Negotiator would do what he or she has the authority to do, while the Representative might concede little, reserving much for further discussion.

Even if the low-level Representative does in fact, have authority to try to make a deal—subject to confirmation and approval by a senior person—Our Side may suffer in real estate negotiations simply because of The Other Side’s internal organizational dynamics.

The Other Side’s Representative may make a deal that is perfectly reasonable, logical, and appropriate under the circumstances. When a subordinate makes a deal and explains it to his or her superiors, however, those superiors often need to show that they are tough and responsible and that they can add value to a transaction. (Otherwise, why does the organization need them?)

Therefore, The Other Side’s executive (second-guesser) might scrutinize and question the proposed deal much more critically than if he or she had been on the firing line initially. Indeed, the senior person might well have made the same deal on the same terms and deemed it perfectly good under the circumstances.

For these reasons, in real estate negotiations, a Negotiator should try to have The Other Side send to the negotiation the highest-level Representative who can reasonably be requested. And the Negotiator should try to assure that the authority levels of negotiators on both sides are reasonably well balanced (or tipped in Our Side’s favour).


B. The Negotiating Timetable

If both parties want to close a deal quickly, they should probably bring in their higher-level negotiators at the outset, and in other ways try to do everything possible to move the process along.

If Our Site is in no hurry but believes The Other Side needs a quick deal, Our Side may want to slow the process by starting the exchanges with low-authority negotiators.

The Negotiator would work through each issue deliberately and carefully, taking his or her time about setting up meetings, not expediting the process. The Negotiator might suspend negotiations while the attorneys redraft, then study the redrafts carefully to assure they are as complete and correct as possible before circulating them for review and discussion.

This approach in real estate negotiation might set the stage for a time crunch that may ultimately work in the Negotiator’s favour. A time crunch can also sometimes explode in the face of the side dragging its feet. The more unstable and tense a situation, the less anyone can predict and control it.

The Negotiator may think that instability and tension give Our Side an advantage, but he or she could be missing a crucial piece of information about the deal or about The Other Side’s options that changes everything.

Whether and how to set up instability and tension is a delicate strategic decision, more art than science.

C. Personal Relationships Among Negotiators

As early as possible in real estate negotiations, the Negotiator should get to know the people on The Other Side as individuals. He or she may want to ask about their families, their roles in their company, their hobbies and interests, and what is going on in their lives.

The Negotiator should build friendly relationships to the extent possible. This is because the nature of the negotiators’ interaction and the relationship that ensues has a major impact on the negotiation process.

Most people want to please and help their friends. Good feelings among the negotiators make the rough and tumble of negotiating smoother and more pleasant and may produce better results for everyone.

At a minimum, good interpersonal relationships may lead both parties to skip the posturing and gratuitous confrontation, so common in many real estate negotiations, that can waste time, create ill will, and even frustrate transactions.

Good negotiators make “small talk” with the opposing side(s). When the formal meeting recesses, though, they discuss anything except the business at hand.

They avoid any topic remotely close to the subject of the negotiation, such as similar transactions that they recently closed.

Casual remarks, if relevant to the transaction or any similar transaction, can suggest concerns, issues, or ideas about the transaction that The Other Side might otherwise not have raised and that Our Side may prefer not to face.

So skilled negotiators talk about weather, family, golf, baseball, music, concerts, or anything else as long as it is irrelevant to the business agenda— unless they make a deliberate strategic determination that small talk is the right way to present or resolve an issue.

In a real estate negotiation, the negotiator should try to develop a sense of shared achievement, treating the participants as partners who are working hard to get to a reasonable middle ground. When the two sides reach a compromise, both sides “own” the outcome.

Once the parties have agreed about substantive issues, a Negotiator will treat the differences as history, emphasizing instead the mechanics and logistics of how the parties will document and close their new agreement.

The more the parties talk about logistics, process, and timing, the more they cement their shared commitment to the resolution reached. This reduces the likelihood that The Other Side will reopen issues.

It also produces positive momentum and a state of mind that moves the process along. Positive momentum and positive states of mind often peak shortly after the parties have achieved, recognized, and confirmed a breakthrough.

This may be the right time for the Negotiator to raise any troublesome or awkward issues that remain. During the negotiations, the parties may have agreed to set aside temporarily certain sticky secondary issues.

A successful Negotiator must not let these issues fester. If they are not resolved, the judgment that they are secondary may turn out to be wrong. They may instead turn out to be fundamental, particularly if the parties finally focus on them at the last minute.

If these issues will not get resolved, the parties might save time, money, and effort by recognizing the deadlock early and moving to a completely different approach or to a completely different transaction.

D. Reaching a Compromise

In real estate negotiation, the mechanics of compromise may be as important as the concessions themselves. Once a Negotiator suggests, even in the most tentative and hypothetical terms, a possible framework for compromise, he or she has just compromised. Nine times out of 10 it cannot be taken back.

So before a Negotiator tries to break through on a major issue, he or she must be careful about what is said and when.  A Negotiator should not suggest a framework for compromise unless the other Side is ready to live with it.

We firmly suggest at this stage enlisting a skilled legal advisor with involvement in these sorts of negotiations

As the flip side of this proposition, a Negotiator can sometimes get what the other Side wants just by suggesting a palatable way to break a deadlock. The Other Side may be so relieved at having a concrete proposal to think about that they will embrace it in large part just because it is there.

Similarly (again both good and bad depending on the Negotiator’s agenda), once the other Side suggests a number—-a price, a delivery date, whatever—- the Negotiator can assume the Other Side will seize that number and never let go.

If that is the result the Negotiator wants, terrific. But if the Negotiator wanted flexibility, he or she just lost it. The Negotiator will never be able to improve the other Side’s position by making a subsequent proposal more favourable to the other side.

Until he or she is ready to commit, any detail that the Negotiator offers can put him or her at a disadvantage.

Also, in real estate negotiations, the more detail the Negotiator gives, the more opportunities the Other Side has to find problems, or to accept the detail that they like while negotiating away, or ignoring, the details they don’t.

Therefore, a Negotiator should be mysterious when he or she can, not giving too many details until confident that the idea is ready for the harsh light of the stage. The Negotiator needs to confirm that the other Side can live with every aspect of the proposal. This is one hack to successful real estate negotiation.

E. Making a proposal

If the Other Side demands details, the Negotiator should use the Other Side’s interest as an opportunity to draw them into helping structure a proposal as if it was their own. The Negotiator should solicit the representative’s comments, ideas, and thoughts and use them in his or her to the extents possible. The Negotiator should help the Other Side to develop a sense that they share ownership of the proposal.

How the Negotiator present a new idea or a new proposal can be extremely important in real estate negotiations. If the idea or proposal is revolutionary or difficult to explain, it should often be presented “one on one” to an appropriate individual, not a large group.

If the Negotiator presents a major new idea in a meeting, each person on the Other Side may view against his or her colleagues to try to find problems. The fact that peers are watching may make everyone tough and inflexible.

If the Negotiator presents the proposal “one on one” however, he or she can better control the representative’s reaction and how the Negotiator responds to it. The Negotiator can often better sell the idea this way.

F. Responding to a Proposal

In real estate negotiations, knowing how to respond to the Other Side’s proposals is at least as important as knowing how to set up and present a proposal. Once in a while, the Negotiation can respond with a simple “no” or its first cousin, “our organisation has a policy against everything”. If we did it for you, we’d have to do it for everyone.

This tiresome trio of respond, never very compelling to begin with, has become even less so in today’s era of quick business deals and nimble organisations. It hardly demonstrates a Negotiator desire to reach an agreement. The business organisation has learned that they must be flexible or they will lose business to their competitors.

For the most part, a Negotiator can’t “just say no” anymore. The opposing party expects responses that are flexible, logical, and rational. If the answer is “no,” it requires a rational explanation. That process may itself resolve the impasse.

An Instructive Example

In a recent transaction, a developer was selling a partnership interest in development still in the early approvals stage, an unfinanceable asset. The purchaser was short of cash, but the seller insisted on cash at closing.These incompatible positions seemed to lead inevitably to deadlock.

Seeking a solution, the purchaser asked the seller to explain why he so adamantly insisted on receiving immediate cash, beyond the normal explanation that everyone always needs more cash.

The seller explained that he had an unsecured bank loan he was no longer able to carry. The bank was pressing him into a corner, where he would soon face personal bankruptcy. He intended to use the cash sales proceed to pay the loan.

Working together, the parties crafted a “win-win” solution that had not occurred to the seller. The purchaser offered to assume the seller’s bank debt and to convince the bank to release the seller from debt.

The seller would be out from under. The purchaser would conserve cash without having to arrange a new loan. All the parties won. Even the bank won, by exchanging borrowers with the seller weak financial statement for a new, more solvent borrower.

The parties reached their compromise because the purchaser forced the seller to explain rationally why he needed cash so badly at the closing.



G. Compromises and Concession

The following are a few more thought about the mechanics of achieving compromises and handling concessions in real estate negotiations:

1. Rationality Can Produce Solution:

At its best, the “rational” approach to a real estate negotiation, demonstrated in the above example, can lead The Other Side to suggest the very solution that the other side might have suggested.

Had the other Side’s Negotiator offered the same solution, The Other Side’s might have questioned it and tried to compromise it away.

Because it is the Other Side’s proposal rather than the other Side’s, though, no “selling” is necessary. the other Side’s major challenge may be figuring out how to gracefully accept The Other Side’s proposal—–with due deliberation and scepticism —-without being overly gleeful about it.

2. Don’t Give It Away

Once the parties are in negotiations, both sides usually want to eliminate uncertainty and to resolve the issue quickly.

At this stage in the real estate negotiation, the Negotiator should not let this sense of urgency lead him or her to concede the issue without getting something in exchange.

Whether the Negotiator concedes an issue because it is the only rational solution, as in the exchange above, or because the Other Side has proposed a reasonable compromise, every concession should if possible be part of a package where the other Side gives something —-ideally something the other Side planned to give up anyway —- but get something at the same time.

The value of a concession is at its highest just before it is actually made.

As soon as the Negotiator makes a concession or telegraphs that he or she intends to, it becomes yesterday’s news and no longer can buy anything.

3. Threats

A threat is stronger before it is acted upon than often. The possibility that one party might do something can create leverage.

Once the threat is carried out (selling the property to, or obtaining the loan from someone else), it is no longer a weapon. This applies in real estate negotiations as well.

In real estate negotiation, Negotiators who make the threat, without acting on them, reduce the credibility of all future threat.

Therefore the best threat is an unstated one, or one communicated ambiguously through “back channels.”

4. Starting positions

If the Negotiator wants or needs something from the transaction, he should ask for it. Strong Negotiators are never timid.

They don’t negotiate internally with themselves before they put their proposal before on the table. The worst that can happen to a request is that The Other Side says no. If the Negotiator asks for too much, the Other Side will not hesitate to say no.

The Negotiator can then trade away the excessive demand for something else. But if the Negotiator never asks at all, the other Side will never get what it needs.

5. Humility

In real estate negotiations, the Negotiator making the proposal should not plead for it, or present it to the Other Side as if it were some kind of humble application. However, this does not deter him from being polite and courteous.

The Negotiator raises an issue because the other Side expects it to be dealt with and resolved and because the other Side expects to achieve what it needs.

If the Negotiator goes on the defensive when a discussion begins, he or she will probably stay there.

H. Accepting the Concession:

Finally, in accepting the Other Side’s concessions in the real estate contract negotiation, the Negotiator needs to think about how that acceptance will be perceived.

If the Negotiator accepts a proposal too quickly, without serious thought, The Other Side may conclude that it gave away too much (and will eventually get a way to get it back).

The same result may follow if the other Side somehow expresses appreciation for The Other Side’s concession.

In each case, the other Side violates an important principle of real estate negotiation; both parties need to feel they have had a constructive process of giving and take, producing a reasonable outcome in which neither is a victim or victor.

Any suggestion that the result unreasonable favours one party or the other may lead the “loser” to think they gave away more than they had to.

The Negotiator should plan when and how to raise new issues and how to put them on the agenda. If he or she overloads the negotiating table at the beginning, the Negotiator may slow even stop the real estate negotiation process.

He or she may want to start out with issues that are easy to resolve, thus creating positive momentum.

Timing is always crucial in negotiations. Some particularly sensitive issues of timing.

Sometimes the Negotiator enters a meeting not quite prepared. Our Side may have been dilatory and not have decided exactly what position to take on some issues.

If the Negotiator raises an issue without asking for something specific, Our Side is unlikely to end up with the result it needs.

If the Negotiator is not yet ready to present an issue, he or she should leave it off the agenda for the time being.

Of course in real estate negotiations, the Negotiator most leave the door open so The Other Side understands that additional issue may remain, otherwise, the mere passage of time will automatically put the Negotiator on the defensive when Our Side has finally decided what we want and how to ask for it.

1. The Other Side’s Mood:

Another fundamental approach in real estate negotiations is that, the Negotiator should pay attention to the Other Side’s mood in every real estate contract negotiations.

If The Other Side’s is in an angry and difficult mood or has voiced or suggested questions about Our side’s commitment to the transaction or negotiating positions, Our Side should avoid raising new issues that might create trouble.

Save those issues for later.

Conversely, if Our Side has just won some issues the “momentum” may favour raising more issues right now because The Other Side is in a concessionary frame of mind.

2. Controlling the Agenda:

If the Negotiator finds he or she is losing an issue, he or she may want to take it off the table for now, and defer the debate.

The Negotiator may say he or she needs more information, or needs to discuss the issue with someone, or need time to look into it more.

The Negotiator should provide a decent reason to defer an issue. He or she may raise the issue when better prepared, when better he or she has prepared better arguments or found something to trade for it.

Sometime the Negotiator will want to save one or two issues for the very end of the negotiation, so the Negotiator can present them “the final issue(s)” of the real estate negotiation.

If at that point, The Other Side is committed to the deal and is enthusiastic about being close to the end of the discussions, they may be predisposed to accept the Negotiator’s position on “the final issue” whatever it is.

But the Negotiator most be sure to present this “final issue” in a way that does not make The Other Side think it is merely a “final grab.”

3. The Documents

Whatever the agreement the parties reach will be reflected in a set of documents. The development of those documents is an important corollary to the Negotiations themselves. It will often receive a lot of attention and work its way through to the conclusion.

In real estate negotiations, Negotiators should ensure to keep several principles in mind as they move from discussion to documents.

4. Control of the Documents

Many believe Our Side should try to control the documents in real estate negotiations.

By controlling the documents, Our Side can decide exactly how to present issues and compromises and to some degree control the negotiations. Care and diligence by The Other Side can, however, make up for these advantages.

Our Side can then be left with the logistical burden, distraction, and expense of coordinating documents, taking the blame for delays, instead of focusing on substance and results.

Therefore, Our Side may want to be strategic, about the documents, maintaining control of only the fundamental documents while graciously allowing The Other Side to handle the rest.

5. Incorporate Position

To the extent that Our Side controls the documents, Our Side should incorporate its position into the documents as early as possible during the real estate negotiation.

A position already in a document achieves a degree of momentum. Anyone who challenges that position is challenging the progress of the documents and transaction. And the challenging bears the burden to explain why he or she didn’t raise the issues earlier in the process.

In contrast, if Our Side identifies an issue in a document as “To be discussed” then Our Side admit that Our Side those not know what it wants. This approach undercuts whatever Our Side might eventually decide to request.

It assures The Other Side will focus on Our Side’s position with special care once our Side finally decides what it wants.

6. Know the Existing Documents

In real estate negotiations, before the Negotiator raises an issue, he or she should know how existing documentation already deals with it.

If the Negotiator wants Our Side to be free to transfer a partnership interest or a lease, he or she must know how the current restricts transfer.

If the existing restriction is negligible, the discussion may lead Our Other Side to want to tighten them. The Negotiator might have achieved a better result by saying nothing at all.

Ambiguity Is Not always Bad.

Some Negotiators believe they should eliminate any ambiguity or uncertainty in the documents, a process that they smart attorney can continue almost without limit.

Sometime, however, Our Side may prefer to live with the ambiguity that exists rather than to deal with the consequences of a full discussion of the issue.

If a resolution of the ambiguity will probably lead to a negotiation that Our Side will probably lose, the ambiguity in the existing documents may beat the certainty of an inferior resolution. Any such judgment represents a business decision, though.

If you are the attorney who decides to live with ambiguity, you want to assure that no one says, after the fact that arises merely because you were careless. This may require some written record of how the decision was reached.

Documents Don’t Resolve Issues or Problems

Rarely will a problem or an issue go away because the attorneys do a great job on the document or “come up with something” that adequately addresses everyone’s need.

In most cases, if the parties have not truly resolved the problem, it will simply reappear in the next draft. Careful Negotiator, particularly if they are under time pressure, will not fall into the trap of thinking otherwise.

Trading Substantive for Speculative Right

A careful Negotiator will avoid trading away an issue away for a concession from The Other Side that may offer benefits unlikely to be realized, or that for other reasons ultimately may not work, such as “a share of the profit” or “what-ever security or assurance you want” or “an option to unwind.”

Measures like these often turn out to be impossible to resolve and work out in real estate negotiations. Once the parties try to document them, they create an endless panoply of issues until the party finally gives up.

If Our Side gives up something real in exchange for one of these chemical measures, Our Side may give up “something” in exchange for “nothing.”

Disregard this Article!

As a final thought, Negotiators must be ready to ignore any or all of the ideas and principles outlined above.

Successful manoeuvring at the negotiation table in real estate negotiations depends largely on instincts and a sense of people, the situation and its larger context.

Although the principles outlined here have worked well for us at BRICKSTONE, a negotiator must respond to issues and proposals creatively and instinctively. This can sometimes require deliberately breaking the rules to achieve a result. But before the Negotiator can break the rules, he or she should understand them.

Most of the great artist of history had to master academic studies before they ventured into their own brand of “creativity” and achieved their signature styles

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